1/3 - Parenting by Profile with Human Design - Notes from The Cartography course

How to use those notes

If you haven’t yet, I’d highly recommend you read the introduction for this collections of notes that is in this post. This is also where you’ll find the index for all the profiles and a gathering of all the notes for each line so you can get a fuller picture for your child’s profile.

✨ Parenting a 1/3 ✨

Practical take-aways from the section :

• pay them for tasks [1]

• educate them with and about solid foundations [1]

• let them break bonds with people & things [3]

• ENCOURAGE them to make mistakes [3]

• don’t tell them what doesn’t work [3]

  1st lines need to be self-sufficient

  “Now, the security strategy of the 1/3 is to be the self-provider/coveter [1st line], and, of course, whenever you see a binary like that, you're not one or the other. It's a movement in life. And you're always moving between those, you know, you can self provide at some point for this, and yet, you can still covet the other, but it's part of your process. And the deepest theme in that is to be able to provide for oneself.

  You know, you got a 1/3 child, make sure from a very early age, that you pay them for certain things. And, you know, whatever it happens to be, whatever minor job duty, because in being able to do that, you give them a healthy sense of their ability to be able to provide for themselves, and it's very important.”

  “It's a very, very difficult thing for the first line, when it has to be dependent on others, it's very difficult. And it's so important for first lines to have the opportunity to be able to provide for themselves, so that they don't have to be dependent on others to do their homework, to do their research, to be left alone. So self providing as a dominant theme.”

  “You know, because they need that, you know, and if you come to them, and tell them that you're gonna look after them, you know, they're not going to be very happy with all of that. Even though you think it's wonderful that you want to look after them and care for them and nurture them, they're not going to find that nice at all, you know, swarmy or something.

  You know, what they're really interested in is having somebody who appreciates their need to be solid in their own foundation [1st line], to be a self-provider, to be able to look after themselves, to be an authority in this life, you know, they really are here to be in charge. Now, if you look at the 7.1, you will see that authority in its detriment can really be a sulking child, you know, or demanding, or whatever. But the reality is, that it's essential for them to have this sense of authority in their life.

  So there's something in this life that they really have to know well. Now, again, that's, you know, that is something that we can nurture in the young 1/3, we can introduce them to things that are solid, we can introduce them to things and show them how the foundation of them works. So that they see that it's solid, it’s very important for them.”

  1st line foundations need education

  “And of course, this comes with the foundation. In other words, these are children that they need to be properly educated. And more than that, they need to be properly educated into something that can give them a foundation in life. In other words, that can give them something that will provide them with the potential for being a healthy self-provider.”

  3rd lines can’t stay with the same thing for too long

  “And also to appreciate that if you have a child, that's a 1/3, you have to recognise that they're also going to be, you know, moving from one thing to the other [3rd line]. I mean, it's not like they're going to be staying with one thing very long. They have to go through the third line process, they have to go through their trial and error. And the things that are going to stimulate them in this life are going to come to them from the outside. After all, they don't know it's there, so it's gonna bump into them. So they will try to get into something, see that it doesn't work, get out of it.”

  3rd lines need to make mistakes

  “The longer we stay on the planet, the easier it gets, and we all know that. And one of the things that we have to learn to accept is honour is everything that's been a part of our life. I mean, everything, everything there is, you know, there are no mistakes. These are all geometries. And every single one of those aspects that we go through whether they're good or bad or indifferent, they're all part of the material that gives us the opportunity to be clearer later in our process. And that is particularly true of third lines.”

  More on the 1st line children in the 1/4, 4/1, 5/1 sections.

  More on the 3rd line children in the 3/5, 3/6, 6/3 sections.