“The split definition that’s correct is here to teach everyone else how to be in a partnership because they know what's missing for them. They know what it means that having an other makes an enormous difference in their lives. And I'm not just talking about a lover.

I’m talking about all relationships. It is only in the split definition that there is this potential to really make partnership work. You can't expect a single definition, a triple split and particularly a quad to be able to make a relationship work. They don't. They’re the problem in the relationship, because they’re not designed for it. They're not. They don't know what it means that through the other they find wholeness.

Think about how profound that is. You’re a split definition, you're correct, you enter into a relationship correctly and it gives you a sense of wholeness. That sense of wholeness gets translated as a value in terms of the quality of that relationship.

You understand immediately the benefit you're deriving from that connection; immediately. But if you're a single definition and you enter into a relationship, the relationship isn't giving you any sense of wholeness. “I don't need anybody,” by design.

So, the whole concept of relating with the other and the bargains that have to be made and the compromises and the “this” and the “that,” you have a split definition that has a compromise on their bridge and they’ll live with it.

You’re a single definition and you have a compromise with whomever and you're taking knives out of your pocket. “I don’t want to have anything to do with you.” Because there’s nothing that says you can't afford to give these people up.”

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