2/4 - Parenting by Profile with Human Design - Notes from The Cartography course
How to use those notes
If you haven’t yet, I’d highly recommend you read the introduction for this collections of notes that is in this post. This is also where you’ll find the index for all the profiles and a gathering of all the notes for each line so you can get a fuller picture for your child’s profile.
✨ Parenting a 2/4 ✨
Practical take-aways from the section :
nourish them well, they will become a wonderful benefactor [4]
leave them alone [2+4]
call them out early on, but with opportunities that turn them on [2]
2/4 get a lot of attention that can get exhausted from it
“Remember that the 4th line is an opportunist. And because it's an opportunist, for the 2/4 profiles, those opportunities are going to come more than any other profile, no profile gets more attention than the 2/4, it gets an enormous amount of attention. It gets attention unconsciously, from all those people that want to connect to it, be friends with it, and it gets all the attention from all the people that project on it, and think that it could be this or that or the other thing, and they're always trying to encourage them, you know, take this course, do this thing, have this, go there, you know, and they're like a pinball, you know, they're bouncing around off of all of that.
And if they don't get totally fatigued, because after all, that's the fourth line unconscious theme, you know, you combine the bigot and fatigue, and you say : “All these people are driving me crazy. I mean, they may all have the best intentions, but they're driving me crazy, all of you leave me alone now.”.”
What really rings the bell of a 2nd line
“Now, of course, that whole structure is there, so that out of one of those forces that are doing that with them, that somebody actually rings their bell, that they really call them out that the opportunity is really there. And then that's their opportunity for flowering. After all, they're not meant to stay a hermit forever. They’re not. You know, it's a part of what keeps them sane and healthy. But after all, for them, it is a trial to have to learn something, it is a trial for them to have to explain what they already know that they can't explain. It's a trial.
So in order for them to be involved, at that level, to be an externalising force, you really have to get to them, if you don't get to them early, childhood, much more difficult. Because then, they simply get into that pattern of being called all the time, and not paying much attention to it, just you know, just seeing that it's just another of an endless series of, you know, people trying to get them to be something.”
A lot of inadequacy for the 2nd line
“The other thing is the level of inadequacy, that that can build up in a person. If everybody is looking at you and see what you could be, you begin to wonder who you are, you know : “What's wrong with what I am? and what's wrong with me being here alone in my space, doing my thing and being in harmony. Just because I can, you know, help you, heal you, teach you, protect you, doesn't mean that I have to leave here to do that. Because to leave here to do that will take me away from my harmony”.”
The 4th line is a very nourishing benefactor and a very depleting dependent
“You know, when they become the Nourisher they bring in the resources, they feel much better about themselves, but they can be tremendous depleters in that sense. You know, they're the ones that because they don't want to get involved with anything, they deplete in the sense that they can use up other people's resources, you know, you’ve got three children and one 2/4, the other two kids do all the chores. You know, the 2/4 is just, you know, “I'm involved now, I'm busy. You know, don't bother me.”
At the unconscious level, we have the Benefactor/Dependent. So, you know, this can be a very nourishing benefactor, or it can be a depleting dependent. And, of course, that's why all to force get this heavy motivation throughout their their whole development. I mean, you know, again, your aura does the talking, hey, you have a 2/4 baby, you know, and the first thing you “say” is “this one's going to cost me a fortune, you know, this one's going to stay home until they're 60. You know, I mean, we have to get them out the door and get them busy. And let's see where we can figure out what they're going to be good at. So we can get them doing that soon”. So that we don't have to support that, you know, these are 50 year old children who are still calling home for money. I mean, it can be.”
Make sure to find what turns them on a 2nd line
“And this second line that is there to take the ride in life. Now, after all, they can be very, very successful at being hermits. And remember that they have this deep harmony through aloneness. I mean, if it wasn't everybody pointing their finger, they would really feel terrific by themselves, doing their thing, and not feeling that they have an obligation to serve society in a greater way. However, everybody's got to be involved. So we drag them out into the world to make sure that we don't have to support them. Now the whole thing about that is that if you've got the 2/4 child have, you know, you really have to make sure that you find what turns them on, and you encourage them. And then they can be very powerful forces in this life.”
More on the 2nd line children in the 2/5, 5/2, 6/2 sections.
More on the 4th line children in the 1/4, 4/1, 4/6 sections.
