Those quotes were and still are so helpful to guide me in the murky waters of the dilemmas that come with being a Projector in bonds where I struggle to find success. A lot of them are basically describing the different flavours of what it can mean for us to actually wait for invitations, which can’t be everybody’s way but can be invaluable for those of us resonating with the mechanics the way they were taught by Ra.

When recognition is incorrect, Projectors become super slaves guides

[inaudible question]

Well, you know, it [being the authority fro someone else or seeking someone else to be our authority, telling us what to do, think, see] just leads to dependencies and most human beings, because they cannot operate out of their own authority, they only operate out of dependencies and are constantly being dependent on others to be their authority.

Once somebody allows you to be their authority, they don't want to ever give that up.

Why should they? And they do look for guidance. Oh, absolutely. And then of course, because of the nature of projectors, they tried to turn you into their slave guide. You know, it's not the guide, it's their slave guide.

They want you to be available to guide them

You know, you need to be enslaved, they need to control you. You know, they need to make sure that you're going to help them and guide them when they want you to help them and guide them. They want you to be available for that help and guidance, and don't want to let you go out, you know, you stay home, I may need you and half an hour for guidance, you know what I mean? I mean, you know, it becomes quite a thing.

Dependency is dangerous

And projectors are the great super slaves of the planet. I mean, you know, pretend generators totally locked into the, you know, being being enslaved by everybody else's demands, you know, so it gets really dangerous.

It's really dangerous… dependency? I mean, it's one of the most dangerous things about levels of knowledge like this, where you know, those that develop professional direction, for example, in something like human design, the greatest risk is dependency.

Now, it's not as hard for somebody like me, because a Manifestor with my closed aura, I just say goodbye, you know, I'm not going to hold your hand, you know, but so many people involved in things like this, how difficult it is for them, you know, not to get caught up in other people's dependencies.

An enormous pressure and your success transferred to your partner

And once people are dependent on you, you know, that you have to be the one that is going to make the difference in their life puts enormous pressure on you, you know, and then all they want to do is control you because if you make it work for them, most projectors are very unhappy with successful partners. Now, isn't that a joke?

This is what projectors do. You transfer your success over to your partner, you know, your partner has a great success, and you're miserable as hell. You know, and they've enslaved you into being you know, their success talisman, “you’re my good luck charm, don't leave the house. You know, stay in that room. You know, I'm gonna get a lock for that door. I'll keep you under my control.” You know, I'm exaggerating. But nonetheless.

Leaving someone is a physical decision

[Q : is it difficult to get out of incorrect bonds as a P?]

No, it's not true for all projectors. It’s really again because projector designs are very complex. There's so many different ones, that it varies. However, it is difficult for the projector. I mean, think about it this way, if you're a non energy type, that decision to leave a partner is a physical decision. It's physical, you actually have to have the power to get up and walk out. And you have to use their stuff to make it happen. I mean, that's not easy. I mean, it's just simply not easy.

And you know, my thing with projectors is not about teaching them how to get out of relationships. It's about being aware of how you get into one in the first place. So you don't have to deal with that later.

You are controlled as a Projector : why you need to sleep alone

A lot of it has to do with the way you're controlled as a projector. You, every projector, I mean, you know, I teach everybody to have their own bedroom. But I mean, if you're a projector, and you don't have your own bedroom, this is suicide. I mean, it's just plain projector suicide, it's insane.

You know, because you cannot afford to spend all of your life being conditioned day and night. You know, one of the advantages of your own space, you get up in the morning, you're in your own aura. If there's somebody else in your life, you meet them.

And in meeting them, you set new criteria, you get to see where they are, at that point in that day. At that moment, you know, whether you want to have anything to do with them or not, you can feel what's going on there. In other words, you begin to take some control over the integrity of your aura. It's very easy to manipulate people who are open, who are open and who are non energy types.

The greatest dilemma is the slave phenomenon

I mean, it's what you know, it's the great dilemma that all projectors leave live is the slave phenomenon. I mean, most projectors are, you know, are so enslaved to their families, to their friends, to their jobs. You know, they're just overwhelmed with that.

And you know, the greatest disease for projectors is exhaustion. There's nothing more dangerous for a projector than exhaustion.

And whether it's people that are exhausting you or whether you're being exhausted physically, you know, it is something to grasp. But this is always a sign that you're really in trouble.

An incorrect relationship will implode if you’re correct

So the relationships that are, you know, you come to an awareness and you begin to see that they're not correct for you. The one thing that I can tell you is that if you stay rigidly to your strategy and authority, sooner or later, those partners, those demanding partners were whoever they may be that are not correct, that the relationship explodes or implodes. It just does.

At some point, it is simply going to blow up. It's just the way that it goes. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, sooner or later, sooner or later, it just goes kablooey, you know, and the great risk is that the projector immediately goes back into, you know, remorse conditioning, which is “I've just given up, my plugin”, you know, because that's basically what it is.

I mean, most relationships that projectors are involved in that are not really satisfying for projectors, these are just plugins, you know, this is just “okay, this is the energy connection that I need. And I will put up with it”. And, you know, it's like driving a car that you don't really like. You know? “All right, I need the transportation. So I will drive this shitbox and I will put up with it, because I do need the transportation. I'll keep Harry in the house a little while longer, because I don't have another Harry”, you know, and it just works out that way.

Split definitions and their two kinds of partners

[Q : about needing to cling to anybody as a P?]

Well, again, it's the kind of things that depends on on on your design, if you're a single definition, no. Okay, if you're split, you got to have someone. Yeah, know what to do? Splits are 45% of humanity. 45% of humanity are a simple split, that means two parts. Okay. Not the same as triples, but different story.

Okay, so 45% of plurality of beings on this planet are our splits, alright? And the whole thing about that plurality is that these are the people that condition all of us to bond. All of us if it weren't for split definitions, you know, we would not have a monogamous trip, we would not have any of these things, we really would all be whatever, but we wouldn't be that. You know, I mean, we'd all be Mormons, you know, female and male matriarchies, both sides, everything's allowed, you know. But we don't have that, what we have is split definitions that say we have to have a partner.

So there are two kinds of partners. There's permanent, and there's temporary. There's only two guys, right? You got the permanent, and you got the temporary. And the fact of the matter is, that is a split definition. It doesn't matter which one you have. It's not like you have to have the permanent connection all the time, same person, it doesn't.

Certain designs don't like that anyway, you know, but it does mean that you're not going to fulfill your potential until you have those bridges, you're not. And so you're going to need the correct others in your life.

Not getting in the shit again

In the end, it's discernment and refinement. Because that's what it is. I mean, the only thing that protects a projector is not what you do once you're in the shit. Because you're going to have to slowly crawl yourself out of that anyway. And it's not going to be nice.

It's about not getting into the shit again. You know? I mean, no, because there's nothing wrong with being in the shit and understanding you're there and seeing what it takes to get out. Because hopefully, it's a good lesson that says : “Don't do this again”. You know, “do that”. Yeah, I know, I've been there. We all know that.

The worst thing that we do is bond unconsciously

Think about their poor karma. I mean, you know, the, the worst thing that we do is bond unconsciously. It's the worst thing we do, because we do have children. And you know, it does happen. You know, it's one of those things that happens along the way, in bonds. And of course, it can be enormous dilemma for them and the way they're raised and the way they're conditioned and all of these things. But again, my thing isn't to talk about, you know what it means to be in there, it's about not going there.

If you’re in it, wait for the explosion

And like what we're doing today, being able to see these keys that show you where you can easily be pulled into another one of these kinds of relationships that are like, you know, “give me a break. I don't need this. You know, I don't need to be pulled into the not self and to lose any potential to really enjoy my process”. So if you're in it, all you can do is go through the process of being correct and waiting for the explosion, because it will come.

It does, there's no way out of that.

I mean, projectors are often the you know, they can hang in a relationship. Most projectors wait until their partner dies. Hey, we all know people like that. They just wait till they're dead, “he's gonna go soon. And when he's gone, thank God, I'm gonna be free”, you know, because it's what it is to be a projector, you know.

They love your attention, even negative

You take these people in very deeply, they got their hooks in you, you're the guide, you're the success mantra. You know, you're the one that's their good luck charm, you're the one that's giving them all this attention. Even if it's negative.

If you're a projector, and you got a lover, that's pissed with you, you have enormous power over them. And they know that and they're even entertained by it. “Oh, she's really mad. You know, she's really after me.” You know? They love the attention. It is what you guys do! It is what makes you what you are, it is that anybody that steps into your aura feels privileged.

Now, they don't necessarily, you know, consciously do that number. It's, they just go : “Oh, I like this. You know? They're looking at me, they're paying attention to me, they're here for me”. So if things go bad, they don't care, you're still there for them. You're still focused on them. It's still there. There's still this madness in them. “It'll all be okay. You know. She's going to calm down. She will, she will. She's not going to leave me”, you know, hooked in.

I mean, you know, I deal with zillions of women and their relationships with with their men and projector women, you know, who have survived the most incredible assholes for years and years and years and years and do nothing. They just suffer. You know, and then they say : “Oh, but I'm doing it for the children.”

Don’t look at them!

All you have to do… Look, you have to understand something. If you're a projector woman and you walk into a bar and you look at somebody for one 10,000,000th of a second. They think you want to get laid. 100 Millions of a second, right?

So if you've got that partner, that's a pain in the ass. Don't look at them. No, I'm not kidding. Don't look at them. If you don't look at them, at some point, they're going to implode even faster. No attention, they go crazy. They live off the attention, they live off that frequency because they constantly misread it.

They misread your attention for love and care!

You're a projector, they project that you're really into them, you know, they project “aaah I’m getting all this focus, attention from them” you know, they don't you know break it down and see it for what it is!

All they get is “this is the connection” you know, the ignorant partner thinks that's love! You know, your projector you look at somebody and they go, “Oh, how nice, they really care about me”.

| Our dude, Ra

| Source - Transcript from the break chat of Day 1 of “Projector empowerment” (24/10/2009)