Single, Triple and Quad splits aren’t wired to evolve in relationships

“None of us Single definitions, Triple Splits, Quads—we are incapable of evolving in terms of relationships; incapable. It's not our responsibility. It’s not built into us. It puts enormous pressure on that 46% of humanity who are Split Definitions, because the responsibility then becomes theirs to make the relationships work. And of course, it goes back to what I began with. It is a very difficult thing. Only the Split Definition can see a relationship as bringing wholeness. Nobody else can.”

| Our dude, Ra Uru Hu

Personal notes from a group discussion :

That means that when the relationship is incorrect, they have an incredibly hard time navigating it. For a “double” split, bonds are possibly bringing wholeness, so when they are painful, we have a natural drive and way to work on them, find a way to relate in a less painful way. But for all of you non “double” splits, correctness is the only natural, non-nightmarish option. If it’s incorrect and the other person has no idea how to inject more correctness, they’re stuck suffering, until they’re free.

As a “double definition”, it’s very noticeably harder to make a relationship with someone who doesn’t share that characteristic evolve. But the results of injecting more correctness are quite phenomenal.